Monday, August 19, 2013

June Cleaver I'm Not.

For years I have thought that I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. My mom was, as were my aunts and my grandmother.  It seemed easy enough. Wake up, feed a baby, change a diaper, lay a baby down for a nap, do some housework while watching a soap opera, feed a baby, change a baby, lay a baby down for the night, take a bath and go to bed. Easy peasy!!  However, this unplanned bout of unemployment along with my original maternity leave has left me feeling quite differently than before.


At least not until this child is maybe 2 or 3. Oh.My.God. It is sooooooooo much more work than I ever thought possible. Things that theoretically should take 30 minutes take 3 hours. There is never a routine, even if you're IN a routine. Nothing goes the same way twice. It is insane!!!!  Many days I don't eat until after 4pm!! And as far as my house?? Well, see for yourself.....

(Yes, that's a diaper on the counter. We had to take a hasty bath and that's where it ended up.)
Granted, I'm a single stay-at-home mom and perhaps a spouse would make things easier to a degree, but in my mind I actually think it might make things harder. Tired husband comes home from work expecting dinner and clean house. Tired wife is expecting husband to take care of the baby for a little while so she can eat, shower etc.  You get where there is going. 
Either way, as much as I love my child, I was not cut out to stay with her 24x7.  Some may say that makes me a bad mother and yada, yada. But, I know I'm a good mother and that I love my baby. I also know that I'm a person who needs the structure and routine that an outside job provides. So as much as I'm going to hate to be away from Audrey, I am looking forward to going back to work.
To any of you who are stay-at-home moms, my hat is off to you. If you're a single stay-at-home mom....well, you're just Wonder Woman. And if you're a married stay-at-home mom, I hope your spouse appreciates you for all you do!!! You deserve it!!!



  1. No doubt about it, stay-at-home moms rock!! It's the hardest job you'll ever have, but the rewards are also the richest. Not everyone is cut out for it, but I wouldn't have had it any other way. There were days I missed the workplace, but I would have missed much more had I not been at home with my Anna pie!

    As the saying goes, "All women are working women," whether you're working at home, or at the office.

  2. LOL- Yep-being a stay-at-home Mom is one of the hardest things a woman can do and everyone is not cut out for it. xo Diana

  3. Raising a child is hard work, but I am grateful I was able to stay home and raise mine.

  4. Hi Leslie! You should bop on over to my blog and read the post 'Housekeeping 101'. Don't worry about your house, its the love for your child that shines. And is it work? For SURE!

    I remember taking my kids to the park. Older women would say "Enjoy them now, they grow up so fast!" I would think to myself, "No they don't! They are going to be this small forever!" But they do grow up, so just try to enjoy it now, and I will pray that a job comes your way soon!

    Peace, Ceil